After completing the Effective Listening Self-Evaluation and totaling your score, write out, by priority the areas you need to change. Review and discuss as a couple, if married.
Then review What Love Is and Is Not from Week 3:Day 4 – Week 4 of your workbook and write out, by priority, any unbiblical communication habits you have been practicing in your home that you need God’s strength to change.
If you believe that you have not been demonstrating loving communication to your children (or a particular child), I strongly recommend that you follow the steps below to reconciliation.
1) Confess this to the Lord and ask Him to forgive you for not communicating love to His child/children.
1 John 1:9 “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”
2) Ask God to fill your heart with renewed love for your child/children.
Romans 5:5 “Now hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out
in our hearts by the Holy Spirit who was given to us.”
3) Go to your child/children and make an age-appropriate confession. For example, “I love you, but I know that I have not been showing you that love with my words. I have been very impatient (unkind, etc.) and I need to apologize. Please forgive me. I love you and I am so glad to be your mom/dad.”
4) Pray with your child.
Write out a prayer of commitment to seek the Lord to empower you to change in these areas and to become the parent to your child that God desires you to be.