Choose an appropriate time when your teen is in a relaxed mood, possibly at dinner or while playing cards or a board game together, to ask them the following questions. Be casual, not intense! Do not simply hand your children the questionnaire to complete on their own. You may have to prod them a little. For example, if they answer question #3, “I don’t know,” press them a little by asking, “What are you doing at your age right now and what is important to you?” Remember to give them time to answer. Don’t tell them what you think they should answer, and absolutely do not belittle them!
1. What does the term adolescence mean?
2. When does adolescence begin and end?
3. The years between the ages of 13 and 18 is a time to be doing what?
4. What is your definition of a mature adult, and when does someone become a mature adult?
5. What do you think you are currently doing that is helping you become a mature adult?
6. What role do your parents play in your life right now?