Abide — means, “To stay, remain, to continue in a place, to endure without yielding.”
Accountability — means subject to giving an account, answerable, a statement explaining one’s conduct.
Admonition — (Eph. 6:4) nouthesia (Greek), warning, exhortation, any word of encouragement or reproof, which leads to correct behavior. It is the idea of having a corrective influence on someone by imparting understanding.
Affectionately longing or fond affection — (1 Thes 2:8a) homeiromai Geek means to long for someone passionately and earnestly, and, being linked to a mother’s love, is intended here to express an affection so deep and compelling as to be unsurpassed. Ancient inscriptions on the tombs of dead babies sometimes contained this term when parents wanted to describe their sad longing for a too-soon-departed child.
Approve — means to continually put to the test, examine prior to the approval of your action.
Arrogant or proud — means to be conceited; feeling or showing self-importance, disregard for others. Prideful; giving oneself high rank, or an undue degree of significance.
Attitude — is a posture or position; a feeling, opinion or mood.
Bears all things — bears, stego (Greek), means to hide, to conceal. Love hides the faults of others, or covers them up. It keeps out resentment as the ship keeps out the water, or the roof the rain.
Behavior — on the other hand, is “the act or manner of behaving.
Believing — is pisteuo (Greek), and means having faith in, or to be firmly persuaded in something. It indicates that there is an attitude of expectant hope.
Blamelessly — means faultless, able to stand a critics’ scrutiny. As you move along in obedience to God’s will, you are transformed into the image of Christ, and your godly behavior becomes evident to others.
Brag — to talk about oneself, or things pertaining to oneself, in a boastful manner; to boast.
Bring them up — (Eph. 6:4) ektrepho (Greek), to nourish, rear, feed. To nurture, rear, to bring up to maturity such as children, in the sense of to train or educate.
Charged, Implore, Urging — martyromenoi (Greek), implies the “delivery of truth” and was likely meant to convey the more directive functions of a father. A good father encourages and provides guidance, not that the mother doesn’t also.
Chastening or discipline — is the same Greek word used in Ephesians 6:4 (paideia), and means correction or training. In other words, there is a consequence for every offense; some type of training/correction will follow.
Cheat — (take you captive NASB, Col 2:8) means to plunder or rob as when plunder is taken in war. In this case it is to rob believers of the complete riches that they have in Christ as revealed in the Word, plus His power and intervention.
Communication — the act of communicating is the exchange of thought, message, or information.
Confess — is to agree with God that what you did ignorantly or deliberately was a sin.
Controlling — To exercise power over, to dominate or rule, to restrain, a restraining force.
Countenance — paniym (Hebrew), does have the literal meaning of face (Gen. 43:31; 1 Kings 19:13), but also means the reflection of a person’s mood or attitude, such as being defiant (Jer. 5:3); ruthless (Deut. 28:50); joyful (Job 29:24); humiliated (2 Sam. 19:5); terrified (Isa. 13:8). The Scripture gives us examples of a bad countenance in (Matt. 6:16), and a good one in (Psalm 4:6).
Defiance — is when a child rebels against the authority and the discipline that follows their foolish act of immaturity.
Defile — means to pollute, render impure; or corrupt.
Devoutly — Holy, pious, sacred, dedicated to God. This describes your abiding relationship with Christ. When you are devoted, or dedicated to God, that relationship is the source of a sacred life, and the following two behaviors normally follow.
Diligently — Perseveringly attentive; steady and earnest in application to a subject or pursuit; prosecuted with careful attention and effort; not careless or negligent.
Disciple — (verb) Instilling God’s Word into our children’s hearts through example and instruction, teaching them to pray, and how to have a relationship with God (spiritual training of morals and values).
Disciple — (noun), Greek, mathētḗs, is a student, learner, or pupil, but it means much more in the NT. It is a follower who accepts the instruction given to him and makes it his rule of conduct. In Classic Greek, mathetes is what we would call “an apprentice,” one who not only learns facts from the teacher, but other things such as his attitudes and philosophies. In this way the mathetes was what we might call a “studentcompanion,” who doesn’t just sit in class listening to lectures, but rather, who follows the teacher to learn life as well as facts and progressively takes on the character of the teacher.
Discipling/Discipleship — Discipling is an intentional relationship in which we walk alongside other disciples in order to encourage, equip and challenge one another in love to grow toward maturity in Christ. This includes equipping the disciple to teach others as well.
Discipleship/Direct — instruction-discipleship is the time that you set aside to have devotionals (a Bible study) with your children. It is a planned activity that involves the family.
Discipleship/Indirect — instruction-discipleship occurs when God presents an opportunity for an informal, or unplanned discussion of spiritual things. This means that a parent is paying attention, seeing those opportunities.
Discipline — (Eph 6:4) of children, instilling the character traits of a mature adult, which are morals and values, personal responsibility and self-control, into our children (training behavior).
Discouraged — athumeo (Greek), is a very insightful word. The root of this word is thumos, which means violent motion or passion of mind, such as anger, wrath or indignation. By putting the “a” (alpha) in front of the word, it becomes a negative, means “without”. So it means without passion, despondent, disturbed in mind, and indicates loss of courage. Colossians 3:21 says, “Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.”
Edification — oikodome (Greek), means to build up for the spiritual profit or advancement of someone else, and also used to indicate building up a house or structure.
Encourage, or Comfort — means to inspire, support; console in time of trouble or worry, soothing encouragement designed to cheer up and to inspire correct behavior.
Endure all things — to endure, hupomeno (Greek), means to abide under, to bear up under, suffer, as a load of miseries. It is also patient acquiescence, holding its ground when it can no longer believe nor hope.
Envy — this is discontent or uneasiness at the sight of another’s excellence or good fortune, accompanied with some degree of hatred and a desire to possess equal advantages; malicious grudging.
Exhort — parakleo, (Greek), to call to one’s side, to aid, to encourage, admonish or exhort someone to do something. We are to come alongside our children and help them grow in the things of the Lord.
Faith — pisteuo (Greek), means to have faith in, trust; particularly, to be firmly persuaded as to something. This is more than just giving a mental assent; it means to act on what is believed.
Foolishness — means, “lack of character,” deficient in understanding, unwise, brainless, irrational, ludicrous, a lack of judgment.
Forsake — means to deny, telling us to daily align our priorities to God’s Word, which places His will over ours.
Gentle — denotes seemly, fitting; hence, equitable, fair, moderate, forbearing, not insisting on the letter of the law; it expresses that considerateness that looks humanely and reasonably at the facts of a case.
Genuineness — dokimion (Greek), means something that has been tested and approved. It was used of metals that had been through a purifying process to remove all impurities.
Cherish — (tender care, NAS 1 Thes 2:7c) - To give heed to, to pay attention to, to minister, to soften by heat, to keep warm as of birds covering their young with feathers (Deut. 22:6), to cherish with tender love, to foster with tender care.
Glorify — To reflect, to honor, praise, to give esteem or honor by putting him into an honorable position.
Consequences — that which follows from breaking a rule. In other words, when you have a rule there must be a corrective consequence for breaking that rule.
Head — means the chief or lead person to whom others are subordinate. Metaphorically of persons, i.e., the head, chief, one to whom others are subordinate, e.g., the husband in relation to his wife (1 Cor. 11:3; Eph. 5:23) insofar as they are one body (Matt. 19:6; Mark 10:8), and one body can have only one head to direct it; of Christ in relation to His Church which is His body, and its members are His members (cf. 1 Cor. 12:27; Eph. 1:22; 4:15; 5:23; Col. 1:18; 2:10, 19); of God in relation to Christ (1 Cor. 11:3). In Col. 2:10 & Eph. 1:22, God the Father is designated as the head of Christ
Heart — Hebrew lebab, meaning heart, mind, inner person (mind, will, emotions). The primary usage of this word describes the entire disposition of the inner person. Greek kardia, is the seat of the desires, feelings, affections, passions, impulses, i.e., the heart or mind.
Hurts — harboring bitterness toward parents, an ex-spouse, children, current spouse, or whomever, blocks the transformation of character that God desires for you. Bitterness cuts us off from the grace of God needed to walk and grow spiritually, and causes us to contaminate others. Hebrews 12:15 says, “… looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up cause trouble, and by this many become defiled.”
Hypocrite — is someone who acts phony, or is a counterfeit; a man who assumes and speaks, or acts, under a pretend character.
Impart — this verb has the idea of sharing something, which one already retains in part.
Integrity — indicates singleness of heart, not double-minded - one who walks according to His will and exemplifying God’s righteousness.
Justly — means with integrity and honesty, just, uprightness of character and behavior, daily desiring to live life according to what pleases God. When you know the Word of God, you are able to judge what is right and wrong.
Kind — chrestos (Greek), to do good; denotes being gentle, merciful, sympathetic, gracious and good natured in contrast to harsh, hard, sharp, bitter or cruel. The term also expresses the idea of moral excellence.
Knowledge — is epignosis (Greek), which means thorough participation in acquiring knowledge, but then applying it.
Longsuffering, or patience — means to be long-tempered, the opposite of hasty anger, instead it involves exercising understanding and patience toward people. It also requires that we endure circumstances, not losing faith or giving up.
Love — Agape (Greek), the response of God’s heart toward unworthy sinners. Agape is God’s love demonstrated in self-sacrifice for the benefit of the objects of His love. God’s essential quality that seeks the best interests of others regardless of the others’ actions, it involves God doing what He knows is best for man and not necessarily what man desires…His son to bring forgiveness to man. It is choosing to love.
Love — Phileo (Greek), The response of the human spirit to what appeals to it as pleasurable. “Phileo seems to be clearly distinct (from agape) and speaks of esteem, high regard, and tender affection and is more emotional.” Phileo is friendship love, determined by the pleasure that one receives from the object of that love. Phileo is conditional love.
Make Disciples — (verb) Greek, matheteuo, is to make a disciple (Matt 28:19; Acts 14:21); to instruct (Matt 13:52) with the purpose of making a disciple. It is not exactly the same as “make converts,” though it is surely implied. The term “make disciples” places somewhat more stress on the fact that the mind, as well as the heart and the will, must be won for God by instructing new believers on how to follow Jesus, to submit to Jesus’ lordship, and to take up his mission of compassionate service. It also involves bringing people into relationship with Jesus as pupils to teacher and getting them to take His yoke of instruction upon themselves as authoritative (Matt 11:29), accepting His words as true, and submitting to His will as what is right.
Manipulation — means to control or play upon by artful, unfair and insidious means, especially to one’s own advantage.
Meditate — in the biblical world meditation was not a silent practice; it meant to moan, utter or growl. It had the idea of muttering sounds like reading half aloud or conversing with oneself so that you would so interact with the text that it would soak into your mind. As a tea bag soaking in water permeates the liquid, so meditating on Scriptures permeates our minds.
Minister — (noun) A servant or waiter, one who oversees, governs and fulfills.
Minister — (verb) To adjust, regulate and set in order; to serve, render service to another; to labor for the Lord as a servant.
Morals and Values — for the Christian, morals are defined by what is right and wrong from God’s perspective. Values are the principles, or actions you live by, meaning that your behavior shows what you value most.
Not rejoicing in iniquity — this means that when you see someone fall into sin, or make a mistake, you are not happy and/or vindictive toward him or her.
Nurse — (1 Thes 2:7b) The act of nursing, suckle, nourish, train, something that nourishes, to supply with nourishment, to educate or foster, to further the development of someone or something.
Perfectly trained — katartizo (Greek), means is to put a thing in its appropriate condition, to establish, equip so it is deficient in no part.
Perfect/Mature — (Eph 4:13) teleios (Greek), meaning goal, or purpose; finished, that which has reached its end, term, limit; hence, complete, full, wanting in nothing.
Persecute — To pursue in a manner to injure, grieve, or afflict; to oppress; to set upon with cruelty; to cause to suffer.
Personal Responsibility — the ability to take care of oneself; to follow through on things you have committed to do, or the things required, without anyone else having to prompt you; taking ownership, being accountable and accepting responsibility for your actions.
Power — is dunamis (Greek), which translates as dynamic strength, or ability to do what only God can do.
Punishment — A measured amount of pain to motivate, or the infliction of a penalty. Punishment is part of the overall discipline plan, but it is different from a corrective consequence. Punishment motivates a child to yield to parental authority and accept the corrective consequence.
Purpose — means an intended, or desired, result or goal.
React — The dictionary defines the word react in the following way: to act in response to a stimulant or to stimulus, to act in opposition.
Reacting in the Flesh — can be defined as a Christian reacting to a situation in a sinful manner, in the habit of their old fallen nature, or reacting in their strength and understanding rather than the power and wisdom of the Holy Spirit.
Rebuke — means to convict, to prove one in the wrong.
Rejoicing in the truth — this means that you have great joy, or you are able to rejoice at what is true, based on God’s promises.
Repent — to resolve; to amend one’s life as a result of contrition for one’s sins; to feel regret for one has done or omitted to do before God. To turn around and go another direction; to change one’s mind, will and life, resulting in a change of behavior; to do things another way.
Revenge — means to inflict injury in return for an insult.
Scourges — entails all and any suffering, which God ordains for His children, which is always designed for their good. Also it includes the entire range of trials and tribulations, which He providentially ordains and which work to mortify sin and nurture faith.
Self-seeking — means doing things in our own way, using ours, or this world’s wisdom in making choices.
“Shut Down,” — meaning room restriction with no friends, phone, radio, computer, games, or iPods.
Respond — According to the dictionary, when we respond to someone, we react positively or favorably.
Responding in Love — A Christian responding to a situation with the inward guidance, love, wisdom and power of the Holy Spirit.
Reward — a great precious value.
Rightly dividing — has the idea of cutting something straight as you would in carpentry, masonry or with cutting a piece of cloth to be sewn together.
Rude — characterized by roughness; harsh, severe, ugly, indecent, or offensive in manor or action.
Rule — To rule, manage, lead, shepherd and guide. By implication this means to take care of something, to be diligent, to practice.
Seek first — is a command to do and never stop. (Matt 6:33)
Seek and Set your mind — are imperative verbs, indicating the action is a continual process. “Seek” means to look for and strive to find. “Set your mind” refers to the will, affections and conscience. (Col 3:1-2)
Seek your own way — this is a person who pursues what best fits their own interests, without any concern of how their actions or ways affect others. This person is unwilling to receive input, which includes instruction from God’s perspective.
Self-control — the ability to govern oneself emotionally, physically, and spiritually; the ability to not always yield to the path of least resistance.
Sin of Commission — which means that we sin acting out of our own authority. God says no do not do that, and we do it anyway. Example: God says don’t steal (Eph 4:28), but we steal.
Sin of Omission — which means that we sin by not doing what is right by God, He commands us to do something, and we decide not to do it or, out of ignorance we treat our children according to what we feel is best, NOT doing God’s will. Another example: God says to forgive, but we refuse to.
Steward — Overseer; manager; one who acts as a custodian, administrator or supervisor.
Study — this word is an imperative verb, meaning it is a command to do and to continue to do. The word denotes a zealous persistence in accomplishing a goal.
Submissive — hopotasso (Greek), means a voluntary attitude of giving in, cooperating, assuming responsibility, and carrying a burden.
Thinks no evil — logizomai (Greek), is used as an accounting term, meaning to put things together in one’s mind, to count or add up, to occupy oneself with calculations.
Train up — (Prov 22:6) in the original Hebrew is chanak, which means to dedicate or set aside for Divine service.
Training — (Eph. 6:4) paideia (Greek), means chastening, because all effectual instruction for the sinful children of men includes and implies discipline, correction…as the Lord approves. Discipline that regulates character.
Training — To cause to grow as desired; to make or become prepared or skilled.
Thoroughly equipped for every good work — means it is God’s intention for us to both understand His will and be empowered to follow through in obedience.
Transformed — metamorphóō (Greek), from which we derive our English word metamorphosis: to change into something entirely different, as a caterpillar to a butterfly.
Voids — something that has been left out. For example, a child has certain developmental emotional needs that must be nurtured through loving authority, with consistent proper discipline. If these needs are compromised and/or not provided, a void is created within the child. This often occurs because parents do not understand their God-given responsibilities, or the extent of their influence for good or bad. Most children cannot identify what is missing, what the void is, but they will instinctively try to fill it with something. For example, a lack of real love and proper discipline can make a child vulnerable to addictions and/or emotional and psychological problems that lead to destructive behavior. As you move through these lessons, you will receive biblical instruction which, when followed, can produce a healthy relationship with your child and also an emotionally healthy person in your child.
Wiles — is methodia (Greek), which comes the English word method, indicating craftiness, cunning, and deception. The term was often used of a wild animal that cunningly stalks and then unexpectedly pounces on its prey. Satan’s evil schemes are built around stealth and deception.